If there's one thing I really, simply can NOT stand, it is this new-fangled non-profit
"To Write Love On Her Arms"
There is absolutely NOTHING more hypocritical than this new "movement" (except for, maybe, "pro-lifers")
It's a nice idea and all, but so was communism, and look how that turned out.
The fact is that people can not love without compassion. TWLOHA is based off of loving people you don't know, for the sole reason that it might make them feel better if they are a victim of depression. Basically saying "Oh, you're not special to me at all, but you are sad and you hurt yourself so I'm going to love you as equally as I love everyone else who hurts themselves even though I don't care about you at all and refuse to see the person past the depression." I don't know about you, Opie, but if someone were to say they love me (and millions of others) without even caring about me, it would make me feel pretty insignificant.
COMPASSION is what we are lacking. We are lacking the ability to sympathize with someone's personal situation, we do not even try to put ourselves in that person's (or animal, as the case may be) position. We only listen to the juicy part of the story, i.e. "And then my stepdaddy raped me" in order to get a quick and easy (but perhaps not full) understanding of a person's life. Rarely do we ask, "How did you feel after that? What do you remember about that? What was life like after that?" because most of us are self-centered and don't want to sit through someone's explanation.
There are the standard feelings one gets after they've been abused in some way. Decieved, hurt, worthless. But everyone has different feelings on different things. There is NO way to completely know how a person felt in that moment of pain, but you can at least TRY to understand.
TWLOHA, take note: there is no way to love without compassion and sympathy. Even if you utterly loathe someone, it is still possible to maintain compassion for them. And that is what is important.
And now, for the really hypocritical part:
TWLOHA is mainly endorsed by bands who write songs about depression and wanting to die.
BUT, it seems as though they think the point gets across as long as they wear shirts that say "TO WRITE LOVE ON HER ARMS" and "LOVE IS THE MOVEMENT" and say "Don't kill yourself! We love you!"
That is not good enough. True, a happy song will not change the world, but I have had experiences in which a pretty song with happy lyrics makes me feel utterly euphoric. It is worth penning a song that makes you more than angry or sad, bands of today. At least be sincere in what you write. No one will know how you really feel if what you endorse is the polar opposite of what you write about.
Religion should also not be advertised as the most powerful depression cure. Many people (including yours truly) utterly detest religion and are much better off without the whole concept of "God". A major aspect of TWLOHA is God, Christ and prayer. According to the story on which TWLOHA is founded on, the character in peril is saved from herself, mostly by the power of Christ and prayer. This is nonsense. In my opinion, religion is about as comforting as being stranded alone in the desert. The entire concept of having to follow by an invisible being's rules (many of these rules are in human nature) in order to gain eternal bliss, I think, is cruel and unjust.
But I digress, TWLOHA's target audience is supposedly all people who are victims of self harm, depression and suicidal thoughts. But what if not all of this audience is not Christian? Are they then left to fend for themselves until they find God? This is utterly unfair and deeply saddening.
For many years I, personally, tried to find God. Simply nothing I did could bring me to honestly belief what I was trying to force down my own throat. I was miserable, and it was then that I realized that part of why I was so sad was because that I was wearing a mask of faith. It was not the overwhelming joy I had seen others become taken by. I was much happier with my atheistic ways, and still am today. If I am sad, I do not look to an uncertain entity for relief, I look to myself, my one and only self, for I am the ONLY person I know who can help myself. It is this way with everyone, and it is disgusting that ANY "benevolent" organization would try and claim this as untrue.
And so, in conclusion, dear reader: if you really care for people with depression, you will realize that simply buying a trendy tee-shirt to fund a corrupt, hypocritical organization is not NEARLY enough. Compassion is what we need, not generic, mass-produced "love".
One can not rely on an organization to make them love others. One can only rely on themselves. For ANYTHING.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
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For the record, twloha is not considered a "Christian" organization and does not promote religion.
From their FAQ:
"Q. Is TWLOHA a “Christian” organization?
A. We feel that the story (and the rest of this project) speaks for itself. Identifying something (such as a band, store, venue or project) as "Christian" often alienates those outside of the church/Christian culture, and we don't want to do that. TWLOHA aims to be inclusive and inviting. This is a project for all people. This is a project for broken people, and it is led by broken people.
For more on this topic, please consider the book Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller, as well as the words of U2's Bono, Switchfoot's Jon Foreman, Thrice's Dustin Kensrue, and Anberlin's Stephen Christian."
I'd encourage you to present your opinions directly to the people behind TWLOHA. I can't guarantee a response, but I think they'd agree with you that compassion is key, real, face-to-face, personal compassion.
As far as the music goes, which bands/songs specifically do you feel are about depression/wanting to die? I'm not familiar with all the supporting bands so I'm curious.
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